Ten Keys To Successful Parenting

Ten keys to successful parenting

It is important that discipline in such a way that teaches responsibility by motivating our children to them internally to build their self-esteem and make them feel loved. If the children are disciplined in this respect, they need not turn to gangs, drugs or sex to feel powerful or belong.

The following ten keys will help parents use methods that have proven children's sense of well being and safety.

1 - Use Genuine Encounter Moments (GEMS)

Your child's self-esteem strongly influenced by the quality of short periods of time with him, do not spend a lot of time. Our busy lives, we often think about the next thing we should do, rather than 100% attention focused on what children tell us. We often pretend to listen or does not care about the child's attempt to communicate with us. If we do not allow our children to GEMS throughout the day, he often starts to misbehave. Negative attention to the child mind is better than ignored.

It is also important to note that the feelings are not right and wrong. They just. So if your child says, "Mom, you never spend time with me" (even if just played with him), he has expressed what he feels. It is the best in these times, only confirms his feelings by saying, "Yeah, it probably seems a long time ago, we spent time together."

2 - Use Action, not words

Statistics say that our children more than 2000 calls for compliance with the day to give! No wonder that the children, "parent deaf!" Instead of nagging or yelling, ask yourself, "What can I do?" For example, if nagged your child about unrolling his socks when he takes them off, then only wash socks are present. Action speaks louder than words.

3 - Give children appropriate ways to feel powerful

If not, then they find objectionable to feel its power. Ways to help them feel powerful and valuable to their advice, give them choices, they help to balance your checkbook, cook a meal or part of any assistance to arrange purchases. Two years can wash plastic dishes, wash vegetables or silver away. Often we work for them, because we can not do it with less effort, but the result is they feel relevant.

4 - Use a natural consequence of the

Ask yourself, what would happen if I did not address this situation? If we interfere when we do not need, we will take the children to learn the consequences of their actions. As the consequences of talking, we avoid disturbing our relationship with nagging or recall too much to do. For example, if a child forget his lunch, you do not take it to him. Let her find a solution to find and learn about the important thing to remember.

5 - Use Logical Consequences

Often the consequences are too distant future practical use of natural consequence. If so, the logical consequences are effective. One consequence of that is logically associated with child behavior, so it worked. For example, if a child forget to return his video and you ground him the week that the punishment is simply to create resentment within your child. However, if you go back to him and the amount of video, which is a reduction in his compensation or allow him to terminate the coins, so your child can see the logic of the discipline.

6 - To withdraw from the Conflict

If your child is testing through a tantrum, or angry, or discourteous spreken you, it is best if you leave the room or tell the child the next room, if he wants to "try again. Late in anger or defeat.

7 - Individual award from the author

Never tell a child he is bad. The tears of his self-esteem. Help your child recognize that it's not that you do not like him, but his behavior that you are not willing to tolerate. So that the child's healthy self-esteem, she knows that she has absolutely loved, regardless of what he does. Is your child is not motivated by deleting your love from him. If you are unsure, ask yourself, did discipline to build your child's confidence?

8 - Kind and firm at the same time

Suppose that you have been told five years old child if he or she is not dressed by the timer goes off, you get him and take him to the car. He has told us that they can either get dressed either by car or school. Make sure you are loving when you pick him up yet, the company picked up by him when the timer goes off and no longer nagging. If you are unsure, ask yourself, I motivate through love or fear?

9 - parent's goal

Most of us parent's way of thinking to get the situation under control as soon as possible. We are looking for effective solutions. This often leads to children who are experiencing grief. But we grow in a way that keeps in mind how we want the child's adult, we were able to meet more senior. For example, if we Spank a child, he learns to use aggression to what he wants when he grows up.

10 - Be consistent, follow through

If you have an agreement that the child can not buy candy when she gets to save, not give in to her pleas, tears, demands or pouting. Your child learns to respect you more if you mean what you say.