Parenting Explosive Children: Are They Doing It On Purpose?

Explosive children, Intermittent Explosive Disorder, Defiant child, Defiant Disorder. Trouble paying attention or sitting still, Attention Deficit Disorder/Hyperactivity Disorder. Conduct Disorder and the list goes on.

There are more disorders all surrounding child behavior than any other topic about children. This is something of a phenomenon if you ask me.

This is a question that has been bothering me for a long time now. It can sometimes seem to me that for every unexplainable act there is a new kind of disorder popping up.

When we were kids, (I cannot believe I just wrote that) there was nowhere near as many 'disorders' as there are today. Are they really necessary? In order to fully answer that question its important to take a step back and see the larger picture.

Human beings develop and evolve just like children do. We are getting older (as civilisation) and with age comes an accumulation of knowledge. After a time with said knowledge we learn to understand it and how it applies to different scenarios which can be construed as wisdom.

Stay with me here and I promise not to go too far off topic. We are only just beginning to understand the deeper issues of the brain and the mental psych. We have so much more to learn and we are still evolving. One thing is certain, emotional outbursts of anger are not fun for anyone.

Explosive children might appear as though it is their intention to cause all this trouble. When you think about it who in their right mind would act this way? Research suggests both expected and some surprising results.

First you have to determine if your child is actually 'exoplosive' to the point of not having control. Or if it is just a phase that will be learned from and passed through.

There are two divided categories of misconduct or what constitutes bad behavior. One is when children honestly do not understand their behavior, and they do not know any better. Then the second kind is when children do understand the outcome of their behavior and choose to do it anyway.

One of the difficult jobs of being a parent is to learn the difference between the two before deciding to discipline them. The disorders that are now being ascribed to the unwanted behaviors of our children help to distinguish between these two differences. So from this standpoint these disorders or labels are extremely helpful.

Intermittent Explosive Disorder has been getting quite a lot of attention. Many parents are struggling and at their wits end with how to deal with their explosive children. Not all of them but many are just dealing with the average nature of an emotionally immature child. So in many cases they are just shocked by what they are experiencing and are reacting in a cautious manner.

This is actually a good thing. In my minds eye this means that parents are more concerned with their children. Keep in mind that just because your child has some trouble with anger this does not necessarily mean that they have Intermittent Explosive Disorder.

On the other hand, after a length of time has passed and you see that your child is not improving or is actually getting worse then there might be cause for concern.

Explosive children are often at odds with their own will. Whether they have a disorder or not blowing up out of control is a form of suffering. No one wants to feel this way or act out like this. Even young children do not like the way it makes them feel.

Finding out all you can and understanding all the options can help you to realize that your not alone in this and that there is help available if you find you absolutely need it.

One of the more important things you can do as a parent of a child with behavioral problems is to know & provide the best solutions available. The Happy Child Guide To Discipline is the best information to help in learning how to properly identify the reasons behind the behaviors children demonstrate and can tame difficult kids.