Discipline Tips for Parenting Children Right-Why Punishments Do Not Work

Parenting children by using discipline without punishment is more that possible. People are succeeding with it everyday.  I know that parenting children without punishment sounds like a fairy tale from a childs' point of view. However, punishments are not the same as consequences and you need to have consequences. Punishments are ineffective because they only suppress inappropriate behavior, and usually only for a short period of time.

In life and in parenting consequences are important because they teach them to understand that by doing certain things, those actions may cause particular reactions that follow. Regardless of how the child may feel about it, consequences are a normal part of everyday life. Good Discipline will help prepare them for the responsibility of behaving appropriately.

Discipline is an important and necessary part of parenting. Punishment is not. Yet it can be very difficult to ascertain exactly how and when to use it. This almost always seems like a catch twenty two. You must deliver consequences immediately, never discipline a child when you are angry or upset. Well, what do we do now?

Now take the necessary steps to be prepared.

By doing this you're taking two birds with one stone. Being prepared not only helps to answer all of these problems it solves many of them as well. This is also one of the primary differences between discipline and punishment. Good discipline is not punishment, it is instruction, moral guidance. Good discipline never jeopardizes parent-child relationships.

Punishments have so many limitations and negative effects it would be hard to list them all. So this will be a very fast list of the most important and influential reasons behind the ineffectiveness of punishments.

Punishments Intimidate and permanently damage parent-child relationships

Punishments are addictive because of getting fast visual compliance, and increasing in nature, they tend to get worse over time. Tolerances builds by having an immediate effect they also build tolerance becoming less effective. This is why it only increases it takes more to achieve less control.

Punishments Suppress Behavioruntil the behavior builds and can no longer be controlled.

Punishments do not teach appropriate behavior or teach anything really.

Punishments promote avoidance and escape mentality. They only want to get away from it.

Punishments teach aggression

Punishments fail to eliminate negative attention

Punishments only control behavior temporarily and do not change it for the better. Consequences are the way to exercise discipline for your child. This is a prepared outcome for an unwanted behavior. It also detaches you from the discipline.

Still there are always going to be those behaviors that we are not and could never really be prepared for. Difficult children sometimes seem like they can find an inappropriate behavior that will push our buttons.

Always remain calm and when you are upset get away and take many slow deep breaths. These are only the tip of the iceburg of discipline tips for parenting children right.  Punishments usually make the problem worse and leave everyone feeling bad. You need to be prepared and have a plan in place.