Get Your Ex Back Fast – Proven Tips

In this article we are going to go over how to get your ex back fast... Just like anything else there's a right way to go about this, and a wrong way. First let's discuss some of the wrong ways...

Begging/Pleading

You may already be passed this point, so if you've already made this mistake don't worry, your relationship can still be salvaged. If you haven't gotten to this point where you beg your ex to take you back then you are already ahead of the game.

A lot of times the begging comes in right after one person breaks the bad news. It can be begging, pleading, or even arguing to stay together... Needless to say this isn't very attractive and will rarely if ever work when it comes to getting your ex back. If they do take you back its probably more out of pity than anything else...

If you can see the break up coming before it actually happens then you are in really good shape... Well, about as good a shape as you can be for this situation.

Instead of begging and pleading you should fully agree with the break up... I know it sounds kind of crazy at first but it works. All you need to say once your ex breaks the bad news is:

You know what you're right. This is probably best for both of us. Maybe down the line we can be friends, bye.
The reason this works is because:

1. You come off very independent and indifferent to your ex, especially if you have a positive attitude about it; almost like a, "Yay, I'm finally free" type attitude.

2. You have turned the tables and are now pushing them away. This works especially well if your ex is breaking up with you for being too needy or clingy.

Calling/Texting

If you're past the initial break up and you really want to get your ex back, you first need to give them some space. I know you may want to call them and try to fix things but it will only push them away, especially if it's only been a couple days since the break up.

The only communication I'd say to do withing the first few days to a week is a hand written letter. This works especially well if you didn't handle the initial break up well and you were begging for them to take you back or arguing. Just write them a letter saying something along the lines of:

Hey, I just wanted to tell you I agree with the decision to end the relationship. I realize I acted wrong when things first ended but I was just having a bad day. After a few days of clearing my thoughts I now realize this is the best thing for both of us. I honestly wish you all the best and have no hard feelings, good bye.
You're probably going to want to add more details and personalize the letter more to whatever your situation is but you get the main idea. You are showing that you're fine with walking away from the situation and you are getting on their side instead of fighting and arguing about things.

If your ex calls you for any reason in the beginning it's important that you have a nice, positive attitude and refrain from bringing up the break up or anything about the relationship in general. If your ex wants to start talking about it that's fine but you don't want to be the one to bring it up...

"Accidentally" running into them...

When the break up first happens you want to be a ghost. Your ex can't miss you if they continually see you. Stay out of dodge for a little while, let your ex see how it feels with you out of their life entirely. Usually when this happens they will begin to think about the good times instead of the bad.

Trying to make them jealous...

If you're really trying to get your ex back into a healthy relationship, then this is a big no-no. It wreaks of immaturity and it usually just has th opposite affect because your ex tries to make you jealous in retaliation to whatever you did.

It's foolish and its not a good way to do things... You do not want your relationship to be brought back together under sleazy circumstances.

Instead of trying to get a reaction out of your ex just be the fun, confident, independent, positive person who's happy no matter what happens.

If you and your ex share mutual friends, hang out with them while your ex isn't around and take them all out for a good time, something unique that they don't usually do, it doesn't have to be expensive, just fun and memorable enough that they'll tell your ex about it the next time they talk to him or her.

You can also do this with your own friends even if none of them know or talk to your ex you can take them out to do something fun, take pictures of the best parts and then post the pictures on your MySpace or Facebook page if you know your ex will probably end up looking at it just to see what you're doing.

If you've gone without calling them they'll usually be a little curious. This will make you look much more attractive (from a personality standpoint) and make it a lot easier to get your ex back.